And so early into 2009, a knock to the Poobarian determination to date. This article appeared in the Guardian, at first sight a puff piece about dating, a few random musings on the difference between men and women, in fact the type of nonsense I could knock out for the Grauniad given enough caffeine, access to some half baked research (wikipedia would do nicely thank you very much) and the sheer cheek to subject the readership of a national newspaper to my half baked views.
ANYHOW, I tormented myself by reading some of the comments (it's the type of article that could be condensed into one line: "Dump all your prejudices/angst/crappy relationship stories/bitter divorce battles HERE!") until I happened, slack jawed, on this comment from one Brit in HK:
Hate to say this...from a 40+ male perspective...the way I am wired...which I presume is very similar to other men for reasons explained by you William...I really cannot think of anything worse than your typical opinionated...me me me...fat 40+ single woman from the UK...no matter how 'available' she is.
A growing number of UK men are partnering with women from different cultures (both in the UK & elsewhere)...black, asian etc Anything other than the fat me me me fat typical native 40+ UK woman.
Just about every Brit male I know that lives in Asia (a large sample I assure you) now talk of the undesireable nature of UK women...they are just not very nice ...either physically or characterwise. They ahve been brainwashed for too long to be un-feminine, to be selfish and put themselves before their family, and to eat rubbish and drink like an alcoholic...which makes them pysically very unattractive. Sorry...but that is the truth...a truth which may hurt some...but a truth nevertheless.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
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Happily others find him as absurd as me:
OMG BritinHK you have just made my day with your GENIUS comment, I can hardly stopped laughing to type.
So British women are brainwashed to be "selfish and put themselves before their family, and to eat rubbish and drink like an alcoholic"?. What, like plenty of UK men have been doing for generations you mean? Yes it's extremely unattractive I agree. Brilliant stuff.
And as you say "a growing number of UK men are partnering with women from different cultures", and the reason for this is absolutely down to the sparkling personality and devilish good looks that you guys offer, certainly nothing to do with the fact that Western men probably have more cash than those from these women's own culture, or that you offer a European/US/whatev passport and access to the additional opportunities for women that exist in western culture... and which have made UK 40+ women fat, un-feminine, selfish alcoholics. Oh no... here we go again.
Please keep posting BritinHK, you are great.
xx
My mother told me I'd never find a man as I was far too independent. Turned out I just had to leave narrow minded South Africa with its' chauvenistic men and search further afield.
I don't envy you trying to find a mate here in HK, due to the type of prejudice that prevails amongst the typical expat male (Brit or otherwise) who are dead scared of independent, financially & emotionally sufficient women.
My advice - learn a language or something else hard - in the evening (otherwise it will all be expat wives, interesting people are always trying to learn something new.
I have something to say about this but it comes from the angle of being happy with who you are. I will post on the subject anon....
Gweipo - welcome and thank you for your comments. I agree. During my 3+ years in HK I have been working hard on being happy in my primary relationship (i.e. with myself)... and now feel in a position to find the guy to share it with. Clearly if HK is populated with idiots like BritinHK then my search here will be fruitless!
However, if any of you see me turning into the type of woman he describes...then do feel free to let me know :-)
What's the betting that BritinHK is a fat, selfish, unmasculine alcoholic?
Quite MSS - I can't imagine the chap in question being a catch. To borrow a description from Hemlock's marvellous blog, these chaps tend to be
"a herd of members of the Hong Kong Association of Gwailos Married to Southeast Asian Women of Humble Origins", and
"A genetic engineering experiment that went wrong".
Who said guys can't be bitchy eh?
BritinHK does indeed at least have some entertainement value. You've put your finger on a vaaasast subject, it keeps my friends and I debating for hours on end. Not sure what the conclusions are yet, we still need to debate a few more hours/years. But there are three some things we have established:
- it's very hard to find decent men if you are a non-Asian woman.
- but if you are a normal sort of girl you still have many opportunities to meet men as long as you don't shut yourself into a mental state of having given up and being bitter about men
- men are idiots (oops, sorry, that one slipped out by mistake).
(sorry about the grammar gone wrong, the year of the Ox is taking it's toll on my brain already).
As a man (or is it a mouse?),I have to say bitter people of any gender tend not to be fun to hang out with.
I have many tertiary educated, attractive, intelligent, witty, funny, financially solvent, sporty, well read lady friends who have found their soulmate by leaving Asia and living somewhere else.
Although strangely I also have many tertiary educated, non-fat, non-bald, non-asshole men friends who couldn’t find a decent woman in Asia have found their soulmate by leaving and living somewhere else.
It seems that there is a shortage of quality partners on both sides.
Ain’t that always the way?
you forgot short. Those chaps are always ridiculously short so you end up seeing the landing strip on their heads if you wear high heels ... off putting!!!
ah, apologies.
In Japanese there is a phrase "Chibi, hage, debu" which means "short, bald and fat". It appears to come as a set.
But you can't really do anything about being short (except wear cowboy boots with very big heels and that's a whole other thing)
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